tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33304136517457797332024-03-13T07:14:15.941-07:00Communication Skills PowerAkash P Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00390285693930592901noreply@blogger.comBlogger85125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-27528106241525770672011-08-05T00:04:00.001-07:002011-08-05T00:04:29.647-07:00Read from the Comfort of Your Inbox<div style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 15px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;">Sign up for FREE updates here:</div><div style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, Tahoma, sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-weight: normal; line-height: 22px; margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px; padding-bottom: 15px; padding-left: 0px; padding-right: 0px; padding-top: 0px; text-decoration: none;"><a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/blogspot/publicspeaking" style="color: #215a6f; text-decoration: underline;">http://feeds.feedburner.com/blogspot/publicspeaking</a></div>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-78668998230218515952011-07-11T02:18:00.000-07:002011-07-11T02:18:47.284-07:00Public Speaking Goal-Setting<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Go ahead and rate your public speaking and presentation skills on a scale of 0 to 10 (where 0 means you are absolutely horrible, and 10 means you are a perfect presenter). </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">After you've done this, set a goal for yourself 3 months and 6 months from now. In other words, on the scale of 0 to 10, what number would you like to be at 3 months (and 6 months) from now?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">The numbers themselves are arbitrary. They don't really matter. In fact, the whole point of this exercise is to try and give you a measurable (but subjective) goal that you can make progress towards.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Albert Einsten said, "Life is like a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving". Set a public speaking and presentation skills goal for yourself, and keep moving towards it.</span>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-8687110361592855472011-07-11T01:40:00.000-07:002011-07-11T01:40:42.133-07:00Improving Your Presentation Skills<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Want to improve your presentation skills?</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">Here's how: Read as much as you can. Read all the great books on presentation skills, public speaking and communication skills. Go ahead, <a href="http://www.communicationskillspower.com/2011/03/10-best-communication-and-public.html">here's a list</a> of books for you to choose from: <a href="http://www.communicationskillspower.com/2011/03/10-best-communication-and-public.html">Click here</a>. Read this blog. <a href="http://bit.ly/ipNMxm">Subscribe to it</a>. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">And then, when you come across a great public speaking or presentation skills idea, write it down on a note card. Try out the idea during your next presentation.</span>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-68607019612432744692011-07-11T01:28:00.000-07:002011-07-11T01:28:56.684-07:00Persuasion Skills Principle<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here's a valuable Persuasion Skills Principle: Do someone a favor before you ask for a favor. The Law of Reciprocation states that people are likely to return favors, so first do something for your prospect before you ask him/her to do something for you.</span><br />
<ul><li><span style="font-family: Arial;">Give something away for free to your clients. They'll remember you for it. They'll like you. They'll do more business with you. They'll refer more clients to you. </span></li>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Really. No one cares about you.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Unless you're a celebrity.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">It's all about what the audience takes away from your message. So, when preparing your presentation or speech, keep this in mind, "How can my message help my listeners?" </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If you want to engage, entertain and educate your audience, then try and relate your story and your message to your listeners lives.</span>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-59544515150296412812011-07-10T12:11:00.000-07:002011-07-10T12:12:11.075-07:00The Best Way to Improve Your Public Speaking Skills<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Practice. </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Get feedback.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Improve.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Practice.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Get feedback.</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Improve.</span><br />
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</b></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Do you video tape your presentations? No? </span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> Why not? <br />
If other people have to sit there and listen to you, why should you be spared? <br />
Reviewing your performance is a great way to improve your public speaking. It's painful to watch yourself. Very painful. But it's a great way to gain some feedback. <br />
Critique yourself. But be nice to yourself. <br />
Write down at least one point of improvement. <br />
Make a commitment improve on your next performance. <br />
Repeat, repeat, repeat. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Tell your prospects a story. Tell them a success story. If you're trying to sell someone an idea or a product, then tell them a short story about someone like them. Someone who experienced great success because of using your product/idea. People make sense of the world with stories, so use a story to persuade. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Trying to prove the other person wrong never works. When you try and prove people wrong, they begin defending their views. When people begin defending their views, they grow attached to them...and your persuasion attempts are doomed to fail. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For example, how would you feel if someone told you that you were wrong? And desperately tried to prove it to you? </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">That's right. You would probably try to prove that you are right!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When you use a quote or a testimonial from someone people admire (during your presentations/ speeches/ conversations), then you gain a boost of credibility. Quoting figures that people admire increases your Persuasion Power.<br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vkL_6OgonIA/ThFZ2TgVRGI/AAAAAAAAAMc/PxeP8NC_82M/s1600/6a00d8341c5aa953ef0133f1c57dd3970b-800wi.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-vkL_6OgonIA/ThFZ2TgVRGI/AAAAAAAAAMc/PxeP8NC_82M/s1600/6a00d8341c5aa953ef0133f1c57dd3970b-800wi.jpg" /></a></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></span></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Imagine this scenario: A father and his son are at the playground, and it's almost time to leave. The father turns to the son and says:</span><br />
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</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Father: "Let's go. We have to go now! Time's up" </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Son: "No! I want to stay here longer! Please, please, plea-aaseee?"</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And so the argument continues...</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">However, the father could have used a "False Choice" to convince the child to leave without having gone through this argument. This is how the false choice works:</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Father: "Son, we only have 5 minutes. Would you like to play on the swings or on the slide?"</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Son *considering his options*: "Swings"</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here, while considering the false choice, the son has agreed to the condition that they will be leaving in 5 minutes. Clever, huh? And also quite tricky =)</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The false option is likely (although not guaranteed) to work because:</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">1) the speaker acts on the assumption that the child is ready to leave</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">2) it gives the other person a sense of choice, which is important because people hate being forced to do something</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here is another example of a false choice:</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Would you like to go to sleep now, or in 5 minutes?</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Asking a girl/guy out on a date:</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"We should go out sometime. Do you want to have dinner on Thursday or Friday?"</span></div>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-70718810208201675932011-05-18T22:20:00.001-07:002011-05-18T22:44:35.368-07:00How to Add IMPACT<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-FryXnH47JFY/TdSt_NrMqcI/AAAAAAAAALs/8eFDoGP6wbk/s1600/powerful-presentations.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="173" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-FryXnH47JFY/TdSt_NrMqcI/AAAAAAAAALs/8eFDoGP6wbk/s320/powerful-presentations.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here's a tip I picked up from </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://www.fripp.com/blog/dan-janal-interviews-the-executive-speech-coach/#more-804">Patricia Fripp</a></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">. If you want to add impact to your sentences, make the most important word in the sentence the last word.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For example, instead of saying: <br />
<b>"You have to make a decision today!"</b>you can add more impact by switching it around and changing the noun "decision" to the active verb "decide":</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Today, you have to decide!</b></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">To add impact to your sentences, make the most important word the last word in the sentence. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Imagine you're standing in front of a room full of people who've got their laptops opened, and you're supposed to deliver an important presentation.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Last week, I went through the exact same experience. At 9.00 a.m. in the morning, I tried delivering my Marketing presentation to a sleep-deprived group of students, most of whom had their laptops open. Big mistake!</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I believed that I could use my humorous opening and exciting delivery skills to capture their attention and get them to focus on my presentation. Although a few of the students looked up and made eye contact when I started speaking, most continued to browse the internet. After an agonizing 5 minutes, I brought my presentation to a premature end, wrapped things up and walked away defeated. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Afterwards, I came up with a brilliant idea! <b>What if I simply asked the audience members to turn of their laptops? </b>This may sound like a simple thing to do, but most speakers don't actually do this. Instead of politely asking their audience members to put away their laptops, they immediately proceed to compete for attention.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: red; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">If your audience members have laptops in front of them, you will always be competing for attention.</span> </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Unfortunately, not even world-class speakers can deliver a fantastic presentation when they have to compete for attention. <span class="Apple-style-span"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">The best way to ensure success would be to eliminate the competition for your audiences' attention by </span></span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">asking your audience to kindly put away their laptops.</span></span></b></span></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This may sound like obvious advice, but think about how many times you've heard people use it. I've personally not heard anyone else ask audience members to put their laptops away. Sure, speakers will ask audiences to turn off their mobile phones. But not many will explicitly ask audiences to put away their laptops because they're uncomfortable about asking. [Below, I'll show you get audiences to comply with your request without offending them].</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: white; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Today, I was the emcee for an event where many of the audience members had their laptops open in front of them. As an emcee, my job was to make sure that the audience was ready to listen to the speakers who were going to be speaking that day. After a quick 30 second "Welcome", I proceeded with the following request:</span><br />
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<ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I can see that many of you are busy on your laptops and I can imagine that you have lots of stuff to do. I do believe that this event will be better for both of us if I could have your full attention and in return I promise to make tonight an entertaining evening for you. Now, you don't <u>have</u> to do this, but I think that it will be more respectful for the speakers if you could put away your laptops so that we can give the speakers the undivided attention they<b> </b>deserve. </span></li>
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</b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After I made this request, everyone in the audience except for one lady proceeded to turn off their laptops. I had successfully managed to gain everyone's full attention simply by asking them to get rid of a device which would prevent them from doing so. There will always be people in the audience who don't want to be there and who don't want to comply with your requests, but most people will comply if you make a legitimate and straightforward request.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Today, I was lucky to have dinner with Rory Vaden, his beautiful wife and several other prominent Toastmasters in Hong Kong. <a href="http://www.roryvaden.com/">Rory Vaden</a>, who is the 2007 First Runner Up for the World Championship of Public Speaking, shared some valuable speaking advice with us which I'd now like to pass onto you:</span><br />
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<ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The thing that differentiates good speakers from brilliant speakers is a thousand speeches. I cannot overemphasize the importance of <b style="background-color: yellow;">stage time</b>! Get as much practice as you can.<br />
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</span></div><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Find your <b style="background-color: yellow;">uniqueness</b> and exploit it. Let your unique personality shine through on stage as opposed to trying to imitate someone else. While it's fine to incorporate elements of other people's speaking into your presentations, do stay true to your uniqueness.<br />
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</span></div><ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Read as much as you can about a topic before you speak on it. People don't want speakers, they want experts.<b> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: yellow;">Devour every possible source of knowledge</span></b> that you can - books, audio tapes, seminars - so that you can become an expert on your topic.</span></li>
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</b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Why is this important?</span></div><div><br />
<ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Because people become defensive if you start with criticism. While he may pretend to be listening to your ideas, he's mentally checked out of the conversation.<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Imagine your friend says to you, </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Friend: "I hate this project/job. Our group meetings always take so long!"</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Now, the best way to reduce your friend's negativity as well as making him feel that you understand what he's going through would be to mirror his emotion and then focus on a positive outcome. So, here's what you might want to say to your friend:</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You: <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">I can sense that you're upset.</span> </b>[This is the part where you <b>mirror his emotion</b>]</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">...<b>and you'd like to have shorter meetings, right?</b></span> [This is the part where you focus on the positive outcome, i.e. you focus on what he would like to have rather than focusing on what he doesn't like].</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b style="background-color: yellow;"><u>1. Mirror the Emotion</u></b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>"I can sense that you are ___________" </b>(Insert emotion: upset, angry, disappointed)</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b><u style="background-color: yellow;">2. Focus on what she'd like to happen</u></b></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>"and you'd like to _____________, right?" </b>(insert the positive outcome she's expecting). Adding the "right?" at the end of the statement shows that you're clarifying with her that you've understood correctly.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This formula will help you reduce the other person's negativity because it'll make him/her feel understood, and it'll help your friend focus on the solving the outcome rather than simply complaining about it.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Say, for example, that someone is very angry about the new company policy (which you actually support!). In this case, the best way to let the person calm down would be to listen to him and make him feel understood. You don't want to tell the other person "You're completely wrong, I like the company policy!" because that would just aggravate him further. You want to show him you understand his arguments, but you don't want to agree with him just for the sake of calming him down. </span><br />
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</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Your friend says:<b> <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;">I hate this new company policy, and the management is just implementing it because they're trying to screw us over. I don't think I should have to work overtime to clean up someone else's mess.</span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b><br />
</b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Your Reply: <span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue;"><b>I hear that you're frustrated with the new policy, and you think it's unfair because you don't feel that you should have to work overtime. </b></span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Zdf9Au7G_xw/TcZ7D-v0ZRI/AAAAAAAAALE/yzfvN8DYwJ0/s1600/vanity_mirror_0.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-Zdf9Au7G_xw/TcZ7D-v0ZRI/AAAAAAAAALE/yzfvN8DYwJ0/s320/vanity_mirror_0.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b><br />
</b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Notice that in this scenario, you've simply <b>reflected back</b> what the person is saying. You've acknowledged that you understand what the other person is saying, but you haven't admitted that he has a point. </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">After you've reflected back what the person is saying, you can go on and add your own opinion ("I know that's how you feel, but I assure you that I never meant to make you feel that way..."). </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<div></div>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-3960247684331082012011-05-07T07:49:00.000-07:002011-05-07T11:57:17.375-07:00Why MOST Persuasion FAILS...<div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Imagine the following scenario:</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You: "If you continue eating such unhealthy food, you're going to die an early death!"</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>The Reply: "My grandfather ate worse than I do, and he lived to be ninety-two!"</i></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i><br />
</i></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Now, lets have a look at what happened here.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You offered a logical argument, but your argument was shot down by the recipient. On a deeper level, the person you were trying to convince probably knows that you're right...he's not willing to take advice from you because that would mean admitting that he's living his life the wrong way and that is a painful thing to admit.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The reason that many such persuasion attempts fail is because we try and <b>impose our views </b>on the other person, such as:</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"If you don't get good grades, you'll never get into college"</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Unless you get more organized, you'll be a failure"</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"You're going to get fired unless you start working hard!"</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">While our views may be justifiable, they won't be accepted because it requires the other person to accept that you're right and he's wrong.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So what can we do in this case?</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Luckily, we do have an option. Instead of force-feeding our views on the other person, we can instead ask them questions and get them to come to the same views themselves, such as:</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"I'm curious. With grades like these, what do you think will happen to your plans for college?"</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"Let's talk through this. If you continue to come late to work, what do you think will happen?"</span><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"If you keep making plans for both of us without asking us first, how do you see our relationship going?"</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The hope is that the person you're speaking with will realize the consequences of his actions and make genuine choice to improve. At the very least, the person will go away and think about the question you've just asked them and begin to formulate his answers in the privacy of his home.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Statements such as "You're setting yourself up for a heart attack unless you start exercising!" cause the other person to become defensive; Questions instead (when asked in a friendly tone) cause the other person to consider through the consequences and arrive at his own conclusions...</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b style="background-color: yellow;">Key Take-Away:</b></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b><br />
</b></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-TU6LAbt8tWU/TcVbopOc1PI/AAAAAAAAALA/kRq4DDovxNI/s1600/Instant-Influence-How-to-Get-Anyone-to-Do-Anything-in-Less-Than-7-Minutes-3617020-3.jpeg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-TU6LAbt8tWU/TcVbopOc1PI/AAAAAAAAALA/kRq4DDovxNI/s1600/Instant-Influence-How-to-Get-Anyone-to-Do-Anything-in-Less-Than-7-Minutes-3617020-3.jpeg" /></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: blue; font-size: large;">Instead of force-feeding your opinions on other people, ask them questions instead which will cause them to think about the consequences of their actions</span><b>. </b>By asking questions, you're allowing the other person to come to his own conclusions and find his <i>own </i>motivation for change. </span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">So, how about this? Next time that you want to influence a positive change in someone else, instead of pointing out the consequences, ask a question which will cause the other person to take responsibility for his own life.</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><br />
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</span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b><i>Article Inspiration:</i></b></span></div><div style="margin-bottom: 0px; margin-left: 0px; margin-right: 0px; margin-top: 0px;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The inspiration and idea from this article came from the book I'm currently reading, "Instant Influence" by Michael V Pantalon (Psychologist at Yale University)</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There are many simple, yet not common sense, tips for appearing on TV in the best light possible. For example, you know that you should look comfortable and relaxed when you appear on TV; you don't want to look uptight. But if you sit back and relax in a chair or couch on a TV set, you will look TERRIBLE.</span><br />
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If you sit back and relax, your head will be further away from the camera than your abdomen. Unfortunately, the camera latches on to whatever is closest. If the camera is closer to your gut, it will magnify your stomach. The result? You will look 20-30 pounds heavier than you do in real life. Even if you have six-pack abs, you will look as if you have a large tummy roll. To make matters worse, you will look like you have a double chin, even if you've had more face-lifts than Michael Jackson. So don't lean back in a couch or chair when you are on TV.<br />
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Your next option is to sit up perfectly straight, just like your mother taught you when you were in first grade. In this case, your mom's advice won't work. If you sit up perfectly straight while in front of a TV camera, you will look as stiff as a board, nervous, scared and highly uncomfortable. Don't sit up perfectly straight either!<br />
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So where does this leave us?<br />
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The last - and best - option is to hold yourself up high and lean forward about 15 degrees toward the camera. This will make you appear taller, thinner, younger and leaner, while accentuating your jaw line. Because the camera latches on to whatever is closest, it will now give more prominence to your head and mouth, and less to any excess padding you may have below (a major plus for many well-fed business executives, myself included).<br />
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So for seated TV interviews, always lean forward about 15 degrees toward the camera. If you are standing, don't lean forward quite that much or you might fall over. Just make sure you don't stand up too rigidly straight, or you will appear nervous and stiff.<br />
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The final thing to remember about your body during a TV interview is to move slightly. Don't remain stiff. You don't want to move around in a quick, jerky fashion, but you do want to exhibit subtle, natural movement. Occasionally move forward, backward and to the side 3 to 6 inches, just as you normally would when having an animated conversation with a friend.<br />
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By leaning forward and moving slightly in a full range, you will look your very best in every TV appearance.<br />
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212-764-4955</span>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-55816093715992209532011-05-02T18:38:00.000-07:002011-05-08T03:40:10.871-07:00Seth Meyers Kills Donald Trump<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Seth Meyers killed Donald Trump - so to speak. In case you missed Seth's speech at the White House Correspondent dinner, here's the best of the best:</span><br />
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<ul><li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">Donald Trump said that he was running for president as a Republican. That's funny, because I thought he was running as a joke.<br />
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">Donald Trump often appears on Fox, which is ironic because a fox often appears on Donald Trump's head. If you're at the Washington Post table with Trump and you can't finish your entree, don't worry, the fox will eat it.<br />
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">Donald Trump owns the Miss USA pageant, which is great for Republicans because it will streamline their search for vice president<br />
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"><b>On the Royal Wedding: </b></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">As I was watching the festivities I couldn't help thinking how wonderful it is to live in a country where people don't have to wear hats like that<br />
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">Just look at the options Republicans are kicking around: Palin. Huckabee. Gingrich. Trump. That doesn’t sound like a field of candidates -- that sounds like season 13 of Dancing With The Stars. And not the stars -- the dancers<br />
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<li><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;">[Trump] said he's got a great relationship with 'the blacks'. Unless the Blacks are a family of white people, I bet he's mistaken.</span></li>
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"> </span></span> </ul><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #454545; font-family: Georgia, Times, serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 19px;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Watch Seth's speech here: </span><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YGITlxfT6s">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7YGITlxfT6s</a> <a href="http://www.facebook.com/sharer.php" name="fb_share" type="button_count">Share</a></div>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-19254017213468085182011-05-01T11:56:00.000-07:002011-05-08T03:40:25.871-07:00Report Card from Hell<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Several years ago, I came back home with a letter from my school teacher. Imagine the pride and joy on my parents faces when they opened the letter and read:</i></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Akash's academic transcript is like a festival of F's. </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">However, I am very proud of him. He works hard, and sooner or later - usually later - he ends up getting an answer. Unfortunately, it's sometimes - by which I mean always - not the correct one. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">While Akash struggles academically, I would love to say that sports is where he excels. But he does not. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Regarding his acting talents, he does a very convincing impression of a cabbage. As for whatever singing talent he possesses, it remains hidden - which is how I would prefer it to stay. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">What worries me most is Akash's lack of memory (or, to put a positive spin on it, his surplus of forgetfulness).</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Finally, I would like to say that Akash is a very likeable guy. I would <i>like</i> to say that. Unfortunately, many of the people whom he thinks are his friends find his face slightly frightening. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Best, </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>P.S. I know that your son/daughter will make a brilliant career out of whatever s/he chooses</b>. I don't know if that's really true. I just write that on every report card. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">P.S. <b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="background-color: yellow;">True Story!</span> </b>In case you're wondering: this is EXACTLY like the report card I brought home, but just very different.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"> </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;">Okay, fine, some of the parts - by which I mean all of the parts - are slightly (by which I mean extremely) exaggerated. Anyway, the point is - wait, what was the point again? I'll get back to you soon...my surplus of forgetfulness sometimes works against me.</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS', sans-serif;"><b>About the Author:</b></span><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fXrrmt4284Q/Tb2rfs3wbMI/AAAAAAAAAK0/Kak2YMgnpKw/s1600/Cute-Baby.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="150" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-fXrrmt4284Q/Tb2rfs3wbMI/AAAAAAAAAK0/Kak2YMgnpKw/s200/Cute-Baby.jpg" width="200" /></a></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Looks wise, this was the cutest I ever got. After this, everything went downhill...</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Okay, so this picture isn't really of me! The point is, my parents never really took any pictures of me as a kid...so we just cut out some pictures from a magazine. My little sister, on the other hand, has so many pictures of her that you can flip through her photo-album and it's like one of those animations where she grows right in-front of you. </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Anyway, the point is - wait, you're still reading this? </span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i>Copyright: Akash Karia</i></span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Yeah, I know, you're just <i>dying, </i>to reprint this aren't you? Aren't you? </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: 'Helvetica Neue', Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">All right, all right, since you insist go ahead and share this <a href="http://www.facebook.com/sharer.php" name="fb_share" type="button_count">Share</a></span>Akash Kariahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18231576209286664280noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3330413651745779733.post-9324735261957289752011-04-20T08:26:00.000-07:002011-05-08T03:41:41.906-07:00Find Your Core Message<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left: 54.0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 19px; line-height: 21px;"></span></span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-7ifymgE9psU/Ta77B3dbcYI/AAAAAAAAAKw/AFxPV01xsbc/s1600/most_important.gif" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-7ifymgE9psU/Ta77B3dbcYI/AAAAAAAAAKw/AFxPV01xsbc/s1600/most_important.gif" /></a></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 14pt; line-height: 115%;"><br />
</span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 115%;">When you first start preparing your presentation or speech, the most important thing you must do is to figure out the core message of your speech. What is the one thing that you are trying to achieve with the speech? Which one concept/idea do you want your listeners to understand and remember? Or, alternatively, what one single action do you want your listeners to take after they’ve heard your speech? <o:p></o:p></span></span></div><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 115%;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: 54.0pt; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -18.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Symbol; line-height: 115%;">·<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><b><span style="font-family: Arial, sans-serif; line-height: 115%;">Write out your core message on a piece of paper in less than 20 words<br />
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